Considering divorce can stir up a whirlwind of emotions, and it's important to recognize and honor what you're feeling. Your feelings are real and they matter, even if they're tough to deal with. Sometimes, it feels like certain feelings just keep repeating themselves, making it hard to see beyond them. Learning to trust and understand your feelings can really help as you navigate the ups and downs of making decisions about your marriage.
Understanding Feelings
Feelings are like little signals from our hearts and minds, telling us what we need and how we see our relationships. Before deciding on divorce, it's important to check in with yourself and make sure your feelings are genuine.
How to validate your feelings
Validating your own feelings is all about giving yourself permission to feel what you feel, without needing anyone else's approval. Here's how you can do it:
Recognize your feelings by taking a moment to put a name to what you're feeling. It can help to make sense of things.
Tell yourself it's okay, and normal, to feel a range of emotions, even if they're not easy to deal with.
Think about what triggered your feelings and consider what happened that made you feel this way. It can give you clues about what you need or want.
Be kind to yourself by treating yourself with compassion, like you would a friend who's going through a tough time.
Trust your gut and listen to your inner voice. Trust that your feelings are valid, even if they don't make sense to others.
Take care of yourself by doing things that make you feel good and help you relax. It can remind you that you matter.
Honor your feelings by setting boundaries with others that do not align with your emotional needs or values. Know when to say no or speak up for yourself, even if it means disappointing someone else.
Getting Support
If dealing with your feelings feels like too much, it's okay to ask for help. My coaching practice is a safe space where you can explore your feelings without judgment.
Remember, your feelings are an important part of who you are, and they deserve to be acknowledged and respected as you consider your options regarding divorce.
