What to do when you feel out of sync with your partner (and yourself)

Uh oh! Is this normal?

Feeling out of sync with your partner? If so, it might leave you feeling emotionally exhausted, frustrated, and questioning yourself—"Is this normal? Will it always be like this?"

Maybe conversations feel strained or don't have the depth of sharing they once had, or you no longer trust what your partner says. Maybe activities you once enjoyed together now leave you drained or indifferent or you no longer do them together at all.

It's normal to wonder if feeling disconnected means there are deeper issues in the relationship. But here's the truth—

Feeling out of sync is often a sign you're changing, growing or needing something different.

To determine what the disconnect is telling you, start by naming your feelings when you're out of sync and ask yourself:

• "Do I need something different?"

• "Do I still enjoy this?"

• "Do I still believe this?"

Clarifying what's true for you can be your first step toward reconnection—either with yourself, your partner, or both.

Pausing to reflect on what matters most can help you better understand your needs and begin to express them to your partner in an authentic and compassionate way. Remember, feeling out of sync isn't necessarily a sign your relationship is failing.

Feeling out of sync is an invitation to better understand yourself and what you need.

In the Spirit of Living Bravely, Nikki

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